While we as woman like to think that we never do anything wrong, and it is the man’s fault something didn’t go right. There are a few of us woman that realize yes, there are things that we do that can completely ruin sex. So to help all of you clueless women out there that want to think they are doing sex right, I am supplying you with a list of things that WOMAN do wrong in bed.
You may want to pay attention to these little tips… if you really want to keep you man from fantasizing about other woman. And before you write to me and complain that there are more things that woman do wrong then men listed… get over it. This isn’t Cosmo or Glamour, my goal isn’t to make you think you are doing everything right… I want you to know what you are doing wrong so that you can improve your sexual relationship.
1 Thinking he should be ready for sex whenever you want it
Just because men are supposed to have a high sex drive doesn’t mean that they want sex all the time! If you decide you want sex, and he isn’t in the mood, don’t feel offended and think that he’s doing it deliberately – he’s probably heard the same thing from you many more times! Instead, use your feminine charms to seduce him. Let’s face it, women will always know how to get a man interested……and if he really isn’t, the answer is in your hands. You know where your clit is, so use it.
2 Believing that kissing has to be sweet and romantic
Sometimes the force of his passion will seem overwhelming to you. Suppose you’d like to have a gentle romantic session of kissing? Then, when you start, he begins to get passionate and starts to kiss you, shall we say, rather energetically. What to do? Maybe in these circumstances you should just surrender to passion and leave the romance for later?
3 Thinking men are responsible for giving you an orgasm
Hey honey, it’s YOUR orgasm, not his. He can’t give it to you, he can only help you get there. And that’s true even though he might think it’s his job. So don’t sit back and do nothing – tell him what you want, and if he isn’t doing it properly, how you’d like it to be done. And above all, give him feedback. he’s not a mind-reader.
4 Wondering why he has to go to sleep after sex
It’s just natural. Sometimes he might want to cuddle you; sometimes he won’t. While your orgasm makes you want to talk, bond and exchange sweet nothings, he wants to sleep. You just have to accept it isn’t personal.
5 Never trying any new sex positions
Variety is the spice of life my dear. The last thing in the world that should be the same old same old is sex. Try new positions, you may find that not only is your man satisfied, but you might find that you orgasm sooner or more often. There are so many positions out there to try. Eventually sex will turn into a whirl wind of fluid movements and positioning changes that will turn the two of you on.
6 Expecting him to be romantic and charming all the time
Remember, neither man nor woman can live by romance alone – no matter what passes for it in your household. Sometimes a man’s just gotta be a man. And while that doesn’t mean he should never be romantic, it just isn’t in a man’s nature to be romantic all the time, much as you might like it. Think of it this way – it’s a bit like him expecting you to behave like a female porn star all the time.
7 Thinking sex is just about your pleasure
I guess a lot of women think men are selfish in bed, but then they don’t think how they might please a man…do you suck his cock? Ask him if he’d like to try a little role play? Find out what he likes to have done to him? If not, stop reading the sensational crap in women’s magazines, and start asking your partner what he wants, and consider what sex can offer both of you within your relationship! I mean really! You want him to ask you what you want and do what you want… honey you need to do the same for him.
8 Reading the sex articles in magazines and thinking the advice they give is any good
Believe me, you’re never going to learn anything useful from magazine articles entitled “Ways to drive a man wild in bed”. Websites like this one, though, well, that’s a different matter altogether. Seriously, the best way to enjoy sex is to be aroused. The best way to be aroused is to be emotionally connected and intimate with your partner. It really is that simple. Communication and connectedness… sometimes it needs to be all about him… sometimes is needs to be all about you… but every time you both should be walking away… or rolling over satisfied with amazing sex.
9 Moaning about when he pushes your head towards his penis for oral sex
Well, true, he could just ask you for it, but then on the other hand maybe he’s sent you enough signals to tell you what he wants and you just ignored them? Men like oral sex, they like it a lot, and they want you to give it to them. Do you have to do it everytime you have sex? No, but every other time… couldn’t you give in for the sake of his pleasure.
10 Lying there like a log
I don’t care if you agreed to a quick screw before going to work or falling asleep, the biggest turn off for a man is when the woman just lays there. Understand this, while he may be looking forward to being satisfied he also wants to know that you are into what is going on, that you are enjoying what he is doing. Move a little, squeeze a little… if he wanted a no response he would get a blow up doll.
By just laying there all you are telling him is that you aren’t all that interested in his pleasure or needs, you just want it done an over with. So when he starts looking for a woman that is going to respond to his touch and enjoy sex… you will have no one to blame but yourself.
11 Not shaving – at least occasionally
It could be he’s one of the guys who gets off on websites like hairiest-horniest-pussies.com But then again, he might like you to look a little bit feminine, with your legs shaved and your armpits waxed. I’m not saying you need to do this, and you certainly don’t need to shave your pussy if you don’t want, but surely it’s nice to destubble for him once in a while rather than just doing it when you go the spa, isn’t it? Besides which, if you don’t shave, why should he?
Ok… I want to add that shaving should go beyond legs and armpits. Ladies… I understand that not all of you want to have a hairless vagina… that’s fine… but you can trim it. Keeping the vaginal area well manicured is just as important as shaving your legs. There are electric razors that have different blades on them to help you trim…. get out a pair of scissors and trim the hair, when you shave your legs, shave into the pubic hair so get it away from the legs.
The shorter the hair the better stimulation you will get because you are more accessible. Plus, during oral sex he isn’t getting a mouth full of hair and walking away with dental floss. Keep it short… you don’t have to shave it all off, just trim it.
15 Not having sex when you’re on your period
If you don’t want to have sex when you’re bleeding – though you might even find it erotic – then give him the best damn blow job he has ever had. Take your shirt off, get between his legs, let your breasts tickle and massage his penis and let your lips and tongue take over from there.
If you are concerned about the mess afterwards, put a towel underneath you and a wet wash cloth by the bed side. You would be surprised just how exciting and pleasurable sex can be during that otherwise dreadful time of the month.
16 Not washing before sex
While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, it’s never as nice as it might be if one of you is a little – well, ripe. Take the time to prepare – even if it’s earlier in the day – if you plan to have sex. While a twelve hour unwashed body might be perfectly acceptable, and a twenty four hour old body fine if you aren’t planning on getting your faces into each other’s genitals, it’s only a matter of consideration for your partner to be clean when you get intimate.
17 Asking questions right after sex
After sex is when you are suppose to be laying there enjoying the closeness of one another, this is not the time for life conversations. So don’t ask about the kids, don’t ask about work, don’t ask about this or that… just lay there and enjoy being close… kiss, hug.. caress…
You may want to pay attention to these little tips… if you really want to keep you man from fantasizing about other woman. And before you write to me and complain that there are more things that woman do wrong then men listed… get over it. This isn’t Cosmo or Glamour, my goal isn’t to make you think you are doing everything right… I want you to know what you are doing wrong so that you can improve your sexual relationship.
1 Thinking he should be ready for sex whenever you want it
Just because men are supposed to have a high sex drive doesn’t mean that they want sex all the time! If you decide you want sex, and he isn’t in the mood, don’t feel offended and think that he’s doing it deliberately – he’s probably heard the same thing from you many more times! Instead, use your feminine charms to seduce him. Let’s face it, women will always know how to get a man interested……and if he really isn’t, the answer is in your hands. You know where your clit is, so use it.
2 Believing that kissing has to be sweet and romantic
Sometimes the force of his passion will seem overwhelming to you. Suppose you’d like to have a gentle romantic session of kissing? Then, when you start, he begins to get passionate and starts to kiss you, shall we say, rather energetically. What to do? Maybe in these circumstances you should just surrender to passion and leave the romance for later?
3 Thinking men are responsible for giving you an orgasm
Hey honey, it’s YOUR orgasm, not his. He can’t give it to you, he can only help you get there. And that’s true even though he might think it’s his job. So don’t sit back and do nothing – tell him what you want, and if he isn’t doing it properly, how you’d like it to be done. And above all, give him feedback. he’s not a mind-reader.
4 Wondering why he has to go to sleep after sex
It’s just natural. Sometimes he might want to cuddle you; sometimes he won’t. While your orgasm makes you want to talk, bond and exchange sweet nothings, he wants to sleep. You just have to accept it isn’t personal.
5 Never trying any new sex positions
Variety is the spice of life my dear. The last thing in the world that should be the same old same old is sex. Try new positions, you may find that not only is your man satisfied, but you might find that you orgasm sooner or more often. There are so many positions out there to try. Eventually sex will turn into a whirl wind of fluid movements and positioning changes that will turn the two of you on.
6 Expecting him to be romantic and charming all the time
Remember, neither man nor woman can live by romance alone – no matter what passes for it in your household. Sometimes a man’s just gotta be a man. And while that doesn’t mean he should never be romantic, it just isn’t in a man’s nature to be romantic all the time, much as you might like it. Think of it this way – it’s a bit like him expecting you to behave like a female porn star all the time.
7 Thinking sex is just about your pleasure
I guess a lot of women think men are selfish in bed, but then they don’t think how they might please a man…do you suck his cock? Ask him if he’d like to try a little role play? Find out what he likes to have done to him? If not, stop reading the sensational crap in women’s magazines, and start asking your partner what he wants, and consider what sex can offer both of you within your relationship! I mean really! You want him to ask you what you want and do what you want… honey you need to do the same for him.
8 Reading the sex articles in magazines and thinking the advice they give is any good
Believe me, you’re never going to learn anything useful from magazine articles entitled “Ways to drive a man wild in bed”. Websites like this one, though, well, that’s a different matter altogether. Seriously, the best way to enjoy sex is to be aroused. The best way to be aroused is to be emotionally connected and intimate with your partner. It really is that simple. Communication and connectedness… sometimes it needs to be all about him… sometimes is needs to be all about you… but every time you both should be walking away… or rolling over satisfied with amazing sex.
9 Moaning about when he pushes your head towards his penis for oral sex
Well, true, he could just ask you for it, but then on the other hand maybe he’s sent you enough signals to tell you what he wants and you just ignored them? Men like oral sex, they like it a lot, and they want you to give it to them. Do you have to do it everytime you have sex? No, but every other time… couldn’t you give in for the sake of his pleasure.
10 Lying there like a log
I don’t care if you agreed to a quick screw before going to work or falling asleep, the biggest turn off for a man is when the woman just lays there. Understand this, while he may be looking forward to being satisfied he also wants to know that you are into what is going on, that you are enjoying what he is doing. Move a little, squeeze a little… if he wanted a no response he would get a blow up doll.
By just laying there all you are telling him is that you aren’t all that interested in his pleasure or needs, you just want it done an over with. So when he starts looking for a woman that is going to respond to his touch and enjoy sex… you will have no one to blame but yourself.
11 Not shaving – at least occasionally
It could be he’s one of the guys who gets off on websites like hairiest-horniest-pussies.com But then again, he might like you to look a little bit feminine, with your legs shaved and your armpits waxed. I’m not saying you need to do this, and you certainly don’t need to shave your pussy if you don’t want, but surely it’s nice to destubble for him once in a while rather than just doing it when you go the spa, isn’t it? Besides which, if you don’t shave, why should he?
Ok… I want to add that shaving should go beyond legs and armpits. Ladies… I understand that not all of you want to have a hairless vagina… that’s fine… but you can trim it. Keeping the vaginal area well manicured is just as important as shaving your legs. There are electric razors that have different blades on them to help you trim…. get out a pair of scissors and trim the hair, when you shave your legs, shave into the pubic hair so get it away from the legs.
The shorter the hair the better stimulation you will get because you are more accessible. Plus, during oral sex he isn’t getting a mouth full of hair and walking away with dental floss. Keep it short… you don’t have to shave it all off, just trim it.
15 Not having sex when you’re on your period
If you don’t want to have sex when you’re bleeding – though you might even find it erotic – then give him the best damn blow job he has ever had. Take your shirt off, get between his legs, let your breasts tickle and massage his penis and let your lips and tongue take over from there.
If you are concerned about the mess afterwards, put a towel underneath you and a wet wash cloth by the bed side. You would be surprised just how exciting and pleasurable sex can be during that otherwise dreadful time of the month.
16 Not washing before sex
While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, it’s never as nice as it might be if one of you is a little – well, ripe. Take the time to prepare – even if it’s earlier in the day – if you plan to have sex. While a twelve hour unwashed body might be perfectly acceptable, and a twenty four hour old body fine if you aren’t planning on getting your faces into each other’s genitals, it’s only a matter of consideration for your partner to be clean when you get intimate.
17 Asking questions right after sex
After sex is when you are suppose to be laying there enjoying the closeness of one another, this is not the time for life conversations. So don’t ask about the kids, don’t ask about work, don’t ask about this or that… just lay there and enjoy being close… kiss, hug.. caress…
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